Your relationship patterns will follow you everywhere
That’s the good news and the bad news. If you work on your relationship patterns, it’s likely you will experiences changes in all areas of life. If you don’t, the patterns will continue to play out in all areas of life.
Introducing personas…
There are many modalities that work on improving relationship dynamics. Everything from intimacy to communication. One of the ways to look at relationship patters is through personas:
A persona is not a personality type or fixed identity, but a rigid role we automatically identity with and become on all levels of being…
Often we adopted our primary relationship personas at a young age and they came with emotional and physical tension patterns. These personas served us when we were young (usually related to our caregivers) but as adults they can create painful dynamics if they are always playing out.
Personas illuminate a persons blind spots and patterns so you are not “constantly having the same argument”.
We work on interrupting and stopping the automatic persona responses (behavioural and emotional) and give you alternate ways of being in relationship.
When you look at the personas below, you will recognise yourself in a couple of them. This is normal as your persona is context-dependent and can and should shift between situations.
An example: The Pleaser (Adapter)
When the The Pleaser (Adapter) experiences conflict: the pattern might be: to suppress what you think and feel to avoid hurting others > ignore your own needs and “behave well” > get resentful for suppressing your own needs > feeling guilty for being angry etc.
In the Grinberg session, we look at both the physical patterns and emotional patterns. We track the sequence of the contractions and then help you build somatic / body capacity to stay present in conflict.
For a Pleaser persona, you might learn:
Feeling the discomfort of disagreement without collapsing
Strengthening back and legs to support standing ground
Allowing breath to move while expressing tension
Practicing small, embodied “no” and “stop” responses
Staying connected to self while staying connected to the other
Discover which persona is making your life difficult
Each persona has a core theme however, how it plays out in your body and your life is unique to you.
If the idea of breaking free from your persona feels interesting please book an intake session and we can discuss what is happening in your relationships (personal and professional) and start free-ing you from old habitual patterns. It will take work but it is worthwhile pursuit.
WHAT NEXT?
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